For what it's worth, I don't think I would have married while on active duty.
   Yes, I've heard the phrase, "If the army wanted me to have a wife they would
   have issued me one." That isn't what I had in mind, rather that the
   profession we chose is a highly demanding and often dangerous one. A
   profession which demands full attention to the matters at hand. I found
   myself strung between worrying about a premature daughter and her mother and
   two siblings in Memphis and business at hand while in an A camp in the delta.
   This, I'm afraid, caused me to be less than 100% in my responsibilities to my
   superiors as well as subordinates. Keep in mind the people I was responsible
   to and for who were not getting the attention called for.
   Of course, this lapse wasn't constant, nor was it permanent, yet in
   retrospect, I have to admit a failing of my own making.
   The premature infant is now a beautifull woman with children of her own
   and all the worry was for naught.

I retired because my wife of the moment said
   she needed a husband and our children needed a father and I regretted it as
   soon as the deed was done.
   I cringe when I'm referred to as Mister Flaherty, I want to refer the
   speaker to my chevrons but alas and alack, I don't wear them any more. You'd
   think all that would have worn of after all this time. I've been retired for
   33 years and long past my prime but Like Val, I tend to stay in touch with
   old military friends and sometimes I can hear bugle calls echoing from the
   main post if I concentrate hard enough. If that doesn't work I have a record
   of bugle calls I can play. CHARGE!
   Damn, I miss the army and if it wasn't for you guys and others like you
   I'd have been long gone having wasted away from ennui